“If you don’t like something change it; If you can’t change it, change the way you think about it.”
We all go through difficulties in our lives. Sometimes our difficulties come from family problems, other times it’s our jobs, or perhaps something more serious, such as an unexpected illness. Through the years I can tell you that I have experienced many difficulties, some more intense than others. I am sure many of you have too. So, it got me thinking about myself and others and how very differently we view life.
How we look at situations makes ALL the difference.
When looking at a glass with water inside, how do you perceive it? Do you perceive the glass with enough water or do you see it almost empty? Much of life is just like this too. When you’re faced with a trial, do you roll over in fetal position thinking you will never come out of this or after having a big cry, do you dust yourself off and get back up?
I believe over time how we handle each situation becomes a habit on how we handle all other situations thereafter. We have control as to whether we are an optimist or pessimist. Here are 7 ways we can learn to see the glass half full and hopefully, with much practice, allow it to become a habit on how we view everything else.
Focus on positive, good and pure thoughts. Keep yourself busy with things that will distract you from your own problem. Help someone in need, go out for a long walk, or talk to a good “positive” friend. Which brings me to point no. 2.
During this time, you certainly don’t need anyone saying how terrible this is, or why did this have to happen, etc. Make sure you spend your time with people who encourage you and help you see the positive in between the hard areas.
Crank your radio up! Whether it is Christian music, or your favorite genre it doesn’t matter. Music fills your soul and will improve your mood instantly.
While you go about your day, be aware of the signs God places in your way. He speaks to us at every moment, if we remain open we will see it.
Trust that when things don’t work out quite the way we hoped for, that just means something better is on its way. God will never take something away without replacing it with something better.
Don’t live in your past or the future because it will only cause you pain. Learn to live for today only and when your mind goes any further than today, reel it back.
Let it go! The truth is we have zero control over anything in our lives. When you know with certainty you have done your personal best to help your situation, that is all you can do! Surrender the rest and wait patiently on God.
In closing, remember that there is always something positive in all situations. All we have to do is look for it.
This past year I have learned some very valuable life lessons. But among these lessons, there is one that stands out. You see in the past, I was the kind of person that would invest in almost everyone. I would put my time and energies into whoever would ask. Many times I would even offer my help, well just because I felt they needed it.
Today, not much has changed when it comes to my helping others, except that now I choose wisely whom I help. And here is where my lesson comes in. This past year I have learned that although it is an honorable thing to help others and something God wants us to do, not everyone is open or ready to receive your help. Sometimes we pour our kindness, love, compassion, and honesty into someone that isn’t ready, willing or able to receive what you have to give.
So as I sit here this morning, sharing this little piece of my heart with you, I can honestly tell you that when it comes to my interactions with others, I now view things a bit different. Here are 6 things I’d like to share about my experience.
Small boats are quite interesting vessels because they freely allow to be maneuvered wherever the captain wants to go. Sometimes they are taken through rough waters where pounding waves and rain threatened to overturn it to the point of capsizing. Other times, boats pass through smooth, serene waters requiring minimal guidance. With what seems to be a light touch, the waters gently escort the boat without much movement or maneuvering, gliding through its destination convinced it is their fate.
In a similar fashion I believe our lives are much like this. When we allow to be steered freely our experiences are quite different. Like a small boat, we accept where life takes us. We don’t fight rough waters, but rather navigate through them with ease. We learn to trust our journey, riding the wave with the assurance that as all storms before it, this too shall pass.
When life brings us through serene waters we glide through them just as freely. We embrace the moments of calm and use it as a time of reflection. But it is important in both instances however, similar to the small boat, we go with the flow, accepting fully where we are at any given moment with a grateful heart.