OVERCOMING OVERTHINKING

 

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Ever get absorbed in overthinking?

“Overthinking is thinking too much in a manner that is negative and ultimately unhelpful.”  Overthinking also contains a great deal of ‘what-if’ thinking. When faced with having to make decisions, over-thinking typically kicks into high gear, thus paralyzing the decision-making process.

There comes a time in all our lives when we must make significant decisions.  Whether it be decisions about our jobs, relationships, or where we live.  For many people their “fork in the road” go without a hitch and much of it flows.  But for others their incessant thinking causes them to become frozen.  It’s as though the brain is on overload with thoughts that can’t be controlled. Overthinking will do that, you know!

Oftentimes we resist change because we want our future perfectly laid out for us.  A blueprint to follow with step by step instructions. But since we know there is no such thing, and we have minimal control, we begin to over-think becoming trapped by our mind. This causes a great deal of uncertainty and doubt.

In order to understand why we overthink, we must first understand why we do it. Allow me to share a few undeniable reasons why you overthink when having to make decisions, and a few tips on how to break this habit.

Lack of confidence.  We often allow self-doubt to enter our minds and live there. But we are only as smart, capable, worthy as we believe we are. Don’t rely on getting someone else’s approval and certainly don’t compare yourself to anyone else, you’re not them and they are not you! You never know where your decision may lead you, that’s why you need to take risks without torturing yourself with overthinking.  When you start taking decisions, you will automatically boost your self- confidence. Go for it!

Seeking answers outside yourself.  When we discover over-thinking is not working, we turn to outside influences. We ask not one, but multiple friends things like “What do you think I should do?” or “Where do you think I should live?” When truthfully they’re not even sure what they should be doing themselves?  Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying not to seek advice from one or two trusted friends, but know that the best answer to what YOU need lies within. Don’t continue to ask your friends to help you make important decisions for you, they are not you! Instead trust that you will have all the answers you need, and in time those answers will clearly reveal themselves to you.

Following instead of leading. Oftentimes the desire to “fit in” supersedes the need for change. We feel uncomfortable doing different things or making alternative choices, so once again we overthink. We fight change for fear of not fitting in.  But remember that you are unique with individual talents and gifts that only you possess. Be confident in who God made you to be!  Undoubtedly, you will shine your brightest when you follow your own path, and not someone else’s.

Allowing past experiences to dictate your future.  This causes the ultimate overthinking scenario. We become so afraid of our past mistakes, that it paralyzes our future.  Remember however, just because things didn’t work out in the past, doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try again.  If you want to move forward, don’t allow negative past experiences to dictate your future. Living your life in the past is like a car stuck in reverse, it cannot move forward. Keep in mind that your past disappointments or circumstances have served as teachable moments and are not meant to hold you hostage. Take those lessons and run. And leave your past in the past!

Thinking is an inevitable part of your life that helps you reach goals and avoid troubles, but you should know the difference between thinking and overthinking.

Don’t continue to allow the habit of overthinking to direct your life!

Instead, the next time you need to make decisions, ponder these 3 questions.

WHAT do I want?  WHY do I want it?  And, HOW will I achieve it?

Oh, and one more thing . . .

Don’t Overthink!

Dog Wisdom

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My dog is a great example of the goodness that exists in living beings!

He lives life in the moment and each day shows me what it is to love unconditionally. He’s always happy to do what makes me HAPPIER!

But the one thing I admire most about him however is his keen ability to be AUTHENTIC!

So today, I would like to share with you 5 lessons in authenticity we can all learn from our pups.

If you want something, simply ask!

Don’t complicate things.  Say what you mean and ask for what you truly want.

Be content with the simple things in life!

Take long walks with a special friend, relax with a warm cup of coffee, or read a good book. Be grounded in the simple things!

If it looks like fun, go for it!

Spend time with the people who fill your heart with joy, travel, explore, take naps and take risks. You only get ONE life, enjoy it as much as possible!

Squirrels are fast, but don’t be intimidated!

There will always be someone one step ahead of you.  But it doesn’t matter!  Don’t look around, instead look ahead and follow your OWN PATH.

Wag and the world wags with you!

Show the world . . . Love. Hope. Joy. Kindness. Compassion. And your personal best! Rest assured these things will eventually be making a U-Turn!

What lessons have YOU learned from your dog?  Would love to hear from you!

 

 

 

Blogger Recognition Award

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I would like to thank simplisticinsights.wordpress.com for nominating Faith Love Soul for this special award!   Simplisticinsights is an inspirational blog with helpful tips on how to navigate through this life in a more positive light!  Check it out, it is sure to have a positive impact in your life!

Here are the rules: 

  1. Thank the blogger who nominated you and provide a link to their blog.
  2. Write a post to show your award.
  3. Give a brief story of how your blog started.
  4. Give two pieces of advice to new bloggers.
  5. Select 15 bloggers you want to give this award to.
  6. Comment on each blog and let them know you have nominated them, providing a link to the post you created.

How my Blog got started:

I have always had a passion for writing and communicating with others.  And so I had been thinking about starting my own blog for quite sometime, however I put the thought on the back burner for awhile.  Until several months ago that is.  With a little push from my supportive son, I decided to “go for it”.  I can tell you it has been a wonderful experience connecting to other bloggers and learning from each of them!

My advice to new Bloggers:

  1.  Always be true to your yourself and express it through your writing.
  2. Write about what you’re passionate about with an honest heart.

My Nominations:

https://therichnessofasimplelife.wordpress.com/

https://takeyourfaithwithyou.com/

https://playingbymyownrules.wordpress.com/

https://brothermurf.wordpress.com/

https://essencentral.wordpress.com/

https://thepurplealmond.com/

https://dailydevotionalreadings.wordpress.com/

https://mamasemptynest.wordpress.com/

https://thehappylife101.wordpress.com/

https://josiahharry.com/

https://faithrises.com/

https://pureglory.net/

https://jennaraeshinn.com/

https://theshowersofblessing.wordpress.com/

https://brandonjadams.com/

 

 

 

 

 

TEN LESSONS WE CAN LEARN FROM A TREE!

 

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Embrace your humble beginnings

Grow in your time

Don’t allow external forces to bring you down

Stand tall

Always remain calm and breathe

Stay grounded

Ride out the storm

Learn change from leaves

Embrace your natural beauty

Grow so tall and big that you can always offer shelter to people around you!

Celebrate Earth Day!

April 22, 2017

 

 

EVERY ENDING IS A NEW BEGINNING!

 

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It’s now officially Spring, although around here one wouldn’t notice much.  Due to Florida’s climate, it’s “green” all year around.

But regardless, I STILL LOVE SPRING!

I think I’ve always loved this time of year because for me it signifies a rebirth. The ending of something and the beginning of another.  But endings can be difficult, especially those endings we don’t expect.  We’re creatures of habit, and so ending something familiar means something is over, it’s done, finished!

There are no right or wrong ways on how to navigate endings.

Truthfully, it’s all about moving through them without getting stuck!

And so, I would like to offer a different perspective on how to view personal endings that has helped me gain a more positive outlook.

EVERY ENDING IS A NEW BEGINNING

Ever heard someone say “When one door closes, another door opens.” Close that door, that chapter in your life, and look forward to your new beginning. Have courage to tackle what’s to come!

“TO EVERY THING THERE IS A SEASON, AND A TIME TO EVERY PURPOSE UNDER HEAVEN”

Undoubtedly, at some point we WILL all experience different seasons in our lives. Trust in God’s timing! Remember it is not for us to fully comprehend.  When we surrender, the rest follows!

EMBRACE YOUR “UNKNOWN” WITH FAITH

Moving towards a future we do not know can be scary. But proceed with faith and rest assured that something so much better will be waiting on the other side of your unknown!

ACKNOWLEDGE YOUR FEELINGS

No one should tell you how you should feel. And certainly no one should minimize your feelings. Dealing with endings does resemble grief, and so the grief process is as unique as the person going through it. Be patient with yourself, so you can move through it in YOUR time.

STAY HOPEFUL

Things will get easier!  Remember that nothing lasts forever.  Transitions are always hard at first.  But when you remain hopeful, it allows you to find the good in your situation!

TRANSITIONS

The transition between endings and beginnings does not have to be a difficult one.  Allow yourself the time needed to let go of your past, so that you can move gracefully into your future!

Remember that Just because something has ENDED,

doesn’t mean it’s THE END!