Ebb and Flow



The movement of water is a continual Ebb and Flow.  A rhythmical pattern of coming and going or decline and regrowth.  We experience this ebb and flow in our own lives also.  If you notice the pattern, we too are in constant movement, experiencing phases or seasons of ebbing and flowing.

There was a time in my life where I was easily agitated by any degree of change. The moment there was change, my mind would immediately go into what I call “story telling mode”.  The stories would play out in my head, usually negative of course, which in turn would cause my anxiety to grow with each passing moment.

The only constant is change

But, I soon realized, that change is inevitable whether we choose to be anxious about it or not.  At any given moment, we will experience some degree of movement in all facets of our lives.  People change and situations change. When, how, and why situations end and another begin is unknown and certainly out of our control, so might as well accept them.

Reasons and Seasons

Eventually I began to look at my life in the bigger picture.  I stopped looking for the reasons why things evolved, turned directions, or ended.  Instead I understood that we all go through seasons, which ultimately meant the situation was here for a while, not here to stay.

Whether I like it or not, that isn’t point

I admit, acceptance and surrender doesn’t come easy.  It has taken me quite some time to understand that it isn’t about liking the process or even my own comfort. The game changer began when I whole heartedly believed that God allows things with a bigger plan in mind, and I don’t have to like it, see it, or even agree with it!

In life, circumstances will continue to change.  Relationships will come and will go. Emotions fluctuate. Perspectives shift.

But I will embrace it all and release control, to the ONE WHO KNOWS IT ALL.


“For I know the plans I have for you”, declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future”.

Jeremiah 29:11







Ever feel like you’ve made a mess of things? 

You’ve made a choice in your life and it turned out all wrong.  Truthfully, big life decisions can be difficult to make, especially because we don’t know the outcome.  Sure, we can speculate on how things may turn out, but we will never know with certainty.

And so, we make a choice and go for it, only to discover shortly thereafter, that maybe, just maybe that wasn’t the best decision after all.  Our head becomes filled with questions.  “Did I rush into this too quickly?”  “Maybe I should’ve asked for some additional advice?”  Or, worse yet, you start to question your own judgment upon realizing you have officially created a mess for yourself.

As times passes the mess grows and things become more difficult.  Now you’re in over your head with seemingly nowhere to go. You begin to feel stuck, stressed, and disappointed.

Then one day, out of the blue, things begin to shift. Something unexpected happens providing a window of opportunity to turn things around.  Whether you turn right, turn left, or make a U turn, doesn’t matter.  All you know is you’re finally moving forward and on your way out of this mess you’ve created.

Months later you reflect on what happened.  Now you’ve not only made it through the mess, but things turned out completely different!  As a matter of fact, much better than you ever thought possible! And although your mess in the middle was one of the most difficult experiences in your life, you feel a sense of gratitude knowing this was all part of a bigger plan.



Oftentimes we must go through a messy middle to arrive to an “alternate” ending. Because God will always redirect you and take you from where you are to where he wants you to be.